Parenting

Different parents have different ways to educate their kid since young.. there is always no right or wrong.. just what the parents think acceptable for their kids.. and kids would be our mirror in future when they grow up .. something for parents to reflect on their "result"..

This is a big project with huge commitment.. i dun like it but when it comes, i will do my best for our baby aka our little monster now.. :)

Ever since our little monster was a month old until now.. i have been constantly receiving alot of comments on what i should do to Kingsley.. I'm welcome for advises as it could make me think.. but please DO NOT enforce ur method on me! or telling me that what i do is wrong!!

Since when parenting is judged by right or wrong? if those ways is giving an eyesore to u.. by all means walk away.. dun go and comment "hey i think your way is wrong.. you should.. blah blah blah.." and some even worse.. you are not even a parent yet! you dunno our situation!

Things that we have encountered so far....

# You should use Yaolan and put your baby inside.. it will make baby feels like they are still in the womb and it makes ur life easier.. baby cries.. just "shake"..

---- No i do not want it because i feel it is bad for baby's backbone and he is fine sleeping in his own cot/playpen.. he doesnt have any issue..

(their reply: you dun listen then ur life will be tough) what?? are you cursing me or what? and please dun underestimate the power or will of a mother!

# Your baby is crying badly.. he is feeling insecure and couldnt sleep well.. you should intro him bolster so that he could hug and feel safe..

---- I would prefer him not to rely on any bolster or "chou chou" as what others said.. i wan him to sleep on his own without anything.. plus he is not crying due to that..

(their reply: you dun give him that then your life will be tough coz you will need to keep sayang him to sleep) hmmm i think i would love to be by his side always and coax him to sleep? its bonding time to me..

# Your baby is crying badly for milk.. please quickly go feed him.. faster faster FASTER!

---- Hello! dun you see that i am doing it? and why must i rush? i am also training his patient level.. he has been crying or screaming impatiently for everything he wants must come immediately.. we want to correct that..

(their reply: baby is hungry you should feed immediately.. is their needs.. those can train later..) hmmm.. sorry i couldnt hear you.. what did you say? 'ignorance' attitude ON..

# Your baby is crying and give him pacifier for comfort.. He needs that..

---- No he dun like pacifier and will push out.. Not that we dun wanna give..

(their reply: force him eat.. else ur life will be miserable coz ur baby keeps crying.. not good...) oh cannot.. it will just make him cry even louder.. it just makes thing worse.. and i agreed that keep crying is not good.. but they have fake and real cry.. we should actually be more attentive and find out what and why they r crying about.. then react accordingly..

and many many more... which i am too tired to list all of them..

and for God sake.. i am already very tired on taking care of Kingsley.. please dun come and tell me that i should do more... like since i am cooking lunch then i should also cook dinner since i have the ingredients.. doing more household works since i am staying home so that my hubby could concentrate on working..

OMG! please... i hate cooking actually! lolx! but i enjoy doing it for Kingsley.. yes, its that contradicting.. i will only cook dinner when Kingsley needs to at later stage.. coz i also dun wish him eat any outside food.. so for now.. i do not see a need to cook dinner since he is only on solid food for lunch.. lolx..

and why should i do more household work? i do not understand.. i stay home so i have more time? the house doesnt belong to my hubby anymore? if yes, then i will do more household.. if not.. we are still sharing household works.. and have you ever taking care of a baby that wont sleep much in daytime? and he loves interaction with me and/or hubby.. we never intro much on tv.. and not even ipad or iphone.. we enjoy playing with him even if it occupies most of our time on him.. its bonding time!

I'm sorry if i sound very defensive if any of you advise me that my way of parenting is "wrong" in your eyes.. because the moment you said that i am wrong.. i already feel irritated.. why wrong? you know my kid more than i do? i accept advises and will review my ways of doing.. but i couldnt accept you say that i am doing wrongly!! remember there is no rights or wrongs...

Our little monster is going to be 9 months soon.. and we are proud to say that..

1. he could sleep peacefully on any beds we intro him! No headache during travel lolx!

2. he could sleep without hugging any bolster (we didnt buy any of it anyway lolx) or pacifier (he dun wan it no matter how we tried, sometimes he sucks but most of the time he dun)

3. he will watch tv but only on nursery songs and it's not for long period..

4. he really likes human interactions! not machine interactions aka iPad.. we love!

5. he used to dislike or shy on camera and mirror.. errr now he is okie with it.. he will even smile when he sees himself in mirror.. and when i am talking to him via mirror.. haha!

6. he might still crying badly for milk.. but once he sees milk around him and about to feed him.. he will stop crying and wait patiently for us to feed him..

Of coz there are more stuffs we wanna observe and learn from other parents, after all we are still new in this area and we are learning it together with our little monster.. heehee..

Finally this longgggggg post is about to end... haha... sighhh... initially i do not wish to write it down.. because i feel that it is a common issue to be faced in Asia.. but i have enough comments on the way i should cook for our little monster lately.. it irritates me a lot.. i wanna vent out.. as all these reminded me on all those nasty comments in the past.. sighhh..

you are not his mom and you dunno what he likes.. and i am doing it to his and my liking, not yours.. i know what to be cautious about.. after all our little monster is my precious little sweet boyfriend/hubby.. he is my everything besides my hubby, family and friends.. lolx...

Guess i should say.. parenting is never easy.. and i still welcome your advise if you are not gonna say i am doing it wrongly.. :P sorry ah.. being a mom is very sensitive over all these.. lolx!

So, "Wrong" is the key word to activate my offensive comments towards you... hahaha...